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How do you overcome the dreaded EX?
I will tell you but unfortunately not in this post. I will however prove to you that change is nearly impossible for a man of any age no matter what the situation, I guarantee you girl, it's all the same sh**.
We read so much about how to get them back and how it's possible to change them and find our happily ever after, but is this all really true? Does it last? Can he really change his god-given (or if you aren't religious like myself) DNA composed make-up?
After spending 6 years off and on with a boy who calls himself a man, who is, get this, 7 years older than me, and let me tell you I am merely months away from my 21st birthday and counting down the days, but let me just say ladies, if I have not seen change in 6 years with one man, both in and out of relationship with me, can you really expect him to change beyond those years?
If after even one year he has not made changes to his lifestyle to suit your relationship, how can you expect him to do so after that? Because if beyond the "honeymoon stage" when he is at his peak of interest in you and is willing to do almost anything for you, EXCEPT for those changes, do you really think that comfort and time will change his ways?
NO. They will not. Maybe I am saying this because I have been jaded and just found out last night that this ex boyfriend of mine has just impregnated a girl even younger than me, can you believe, JUST for the sake of having a child!
I've discovered in the past 24 hours that the ex that I have been longing for and been romancing off and on with since I was 16 years old has been brainwashing numerous other girls into rejecting all of their friends, becoming his little tool and puppy and now, his surrogate.
But what else can I say except I should have expected it! He is the exact same person he was when I met him, a sweet talking, womanizer, with the lines straight from the movies who had the ability to isolate me from my entire world and turn it into HIS world. 6 Years. 6 years and he has lived in the same apartment since his ex before me! 6 years and he is still wearing the same robot tee shirt on his facebook profile pics which then, used to be myspace profile pics.
How can we expect change from a creature that is really quite simple?
There are few things that men want from us and they are as follows:
1. Sex
2 .A Child with their last name to be carried on
3. More Sex
4. Companionship when they finally sober up and realize that being alone is really not all that great
5. To fit in, they marry us. Because it's the "normal" and "right" thing to do
6. A trophy. Enough Said
Does any of this sound familiar or am I the only woman out there who is finally realizing that a lot of guys are just as selfish as we are, and yet refuse to admit it?!
This is a little bit of a rant and you know its weird because I am the biggest hopeless romantic there is out there!
Can you believe this guy did this to me?
Who else is understanding any of this?
Anyone?
Actually, it kindof sounds like jealousy to me. Because There are few things that women want from men and they are as follows:
ReplyDelete1. Companionship
2. affirmation that we're attractive, nice, caring people
3.sex
4. a child
5. a trophy
Enough said. See #4? It really sounds like you're jealous that this chick is having his child. I know it sucks to sink so much time into a guy and have it not work out, but obviously it didnt if he's having a kid with someone else. I'm pretty sure the focus needs to be on getting over him, not getting him back, and probably should have been that way the first time around.
You're right. And that is the plan now, just wish I hadn't been so naive and not done that earlier on like you said.
ReplyDeleteI'm more thankful than anything I wasn't the one to end up pregnant so young and not be able to have the life I really want.
Thanks for reading, I didn't know anyone really read this stuff and I thank you for your input.
You are 100% right. It took a lot for me to realize it but you are.
Thx
MarinaJade
I agree with mariH. I think that you're just jealous it's not you having this guys kid, even though you say "I'm more thankful than anything I wasn't the one to end up pregnant so young...". At least that's what it sounds like to me. How old is this girl? I mean, you're only 20. I think it's kinda funny how you post about it saying you're glad it's not you when OBVIOUSLY you're just super jealous because you want it to be you secretly, otherwise, you wouldn't be venting about it in a freakin blog. That's why you're freaking out. I mean what do I know. This is just what I'm gathering from this post.
ReplyDeleteAnd you said this all started when you were 16.... I'm assuming you aren't the same person you were when you were 16, I'm sure you've grown up, so you should realize that Grown ups can be with whoever they want. That's their choice. The fact that you mention his apartment and myspace.... He's A Dude. Everyman is lazy. Every man has their favorite shirts, and it's a pain in the ass to move, so that really has nothing to do with the subject... But back to the point. I feel like your trying to make it sound like he meant to get her pregnant... I can't think of any single guy I know who would WANT to get someone pregnant. But having a baby changes everything, and maybe he looks at it as this is the woman that's carrying my child and he wants to be with the person who is carrying a piece of him. Idk, but this sure just sounds like jealousy and if he hasn't wanted to commit for 6 years, that end it. And don't try to interfere with his new life. Be Happy for him instead of being spiteful. There is only one life and he's probably doing what he thinks is best for him.